We are all Pioneers

You’ll notice around my blog the mention of the word “Pioneer” and there’s a very good reason for it.

According to Webster’s dictionary, “Pioneer”:
to explore or open up ways or regions for others to follow; to begin something new or take part in the early development.

When I went through my divorce, I decided to see a therapist and it was life changing (in the best way possible).  It gave me insight on myself, others around me, and my ex-husband as well.

In one of the sessions, she asked about my mother.  I told her that she is originally from Uruguay, and at 18 she moved to Argentina to work and create a better life for herself.  She later met my father and when she was in her 30s, she moved along with my father, my sister and I to the United States for better opportunities.  I went on to explain how when I was 16, she divorced my dad and worked three jobs at once to help me through college.

My therapist stopped and thought for a moment and said, “Wow.  So you two are very much alike in your strength to move forward.  You both moved away at a young age to stretch your independence and make a name for yourselves.  And when facing trouble you both sacrificed and push forward so others can thrive.  She’s a sort of pioneer, isn’t she?  Like you.”

I never thought about it that way, but the moment she mentioned “Pioneer,” I automatically thought of a song that I love by The Band Perry, called Pioneer (from their Album, Pioneer):

Oh Pioneer, I sing your song
Well it’s the hymn of those who’ve gone before and those who carry on
Pioneer, your work is hard
But the future of us all rests on the shoulders of your heart

Where are we going
Oh I don’t know
But still I’ve got to go
What will become of us
Oh I don’t care
All I know is I’ll go anywhere
Pioneer

Oh Pioneer
So young and brave
Be careful of the careful souls who doubt you along the way
Pioneer, you orphaned child
Your mother is adventure and your father is the wild

Where are we going, oh I don’t know
But still I’ve got to go
What will become of us
Oh I don’t care
All I know is I’ll go anywhere
Pioneer
Let your heart not be troubled

I won’t run when bullets chase me
I won’t rest where arms embrace me
I will love when people hate me
I won’t hush, no you can’t make me
Send the dark but it won’t break me
You can try but you can’t change me
Take my life, they will replace me
I won’t hush, no you can’t make me
I won’t hush, no we will sing

Where are we going
Oh I don’t know
But still I’ve got to go
What will become of us
Oh I don’t care
All I know is I’ll go anywhere
Pioneer

Let your heart not be troubled

Now, I’ not a country music fan, but that album got me through an extremely rough time in my life when I found out that my ex-husband had cheated on me and it was up to me to raise my 6-month old son on my own.  It spoke straight to me and I realized, that yea – I am a pioneer.  Heck, we all are!

So to all you the moms, dads, guardians, caregivers – you are more than just a mom or a dad or a caregiver – you’re a damn PIONEER!

Without sight of what the next day will bring, you are the one to take the first to step forward to pave the way for those who will follow, you’re children.  And because of you, they’ll path will be a lot smoother.

We face the turmoil that may cross our paths, shielding those behind us from the hardship it brings because the truth is “your work is hard, But the future of us all rests on the shoulders of your heart.”

So, my dear Pioneer, I hope you take comfort in knowing that we are all leading in our own paths. Sure, we all have visions of where we would like to go, but the truth is, none of us know where we are going “but still we’ve got to go” and we walk through each day in hopes that we get “there” – wherever “there” is for us.

Writing for me – but with you in mind.

Ok, so are you ready for a confession? Here it goes . . .

I’m a perfectionist AND I’m human. Deadly combination, I know.

The thing is . . . I do social media and blogging promotions for a living. So I had this grand idea in my mind about how to go about this blogging thing when I ventured into the blogging world. After all, over years of experience in the industry, I’ve built a sort of formula – write, promote on social, measure, fix things, and repeat (more or less). The only thing is, I work for a large, global corporation with a large social following, large ad budget, and all the resources I could dream of as a social media marketer. How can I expect the same results and attack this private-blogging thing as I do my career?!

Well, I can’t! Duh! Not entirely anyways.

Sure, there are things that I can use and I do have an advantage already knowing how to go about social media marketing, but promoting a NEW personal blog and an already established B2B blog of a global corporation are two different beasts. I can’t expect to get the same results from one as the other, and unfortunately, I forgot that.

I went into this thinking that it would be “cake” – and when I didn’t get the results I expected from the “perfect” formula I knew to work well, I became discouraged, which then blocked my creativity and my ability to put pen to paper, so to speak. I completely shut down, gave up, and stopped writing – stopped blogging.  Not to mention, I got caught up in the likes and followers of the social media world.

But yesterday, was an eye opener. I got the ability to go to the Pennsylvania Conference for Women and that was truly life changing. Being around women of all walks of life, with different hopes and dreams, and different career paths – made me realize that although I gave up on writing, it has still been in the back of my mind. And it’s not doing any service to anyone by just being there – especially not me.

So here I am, to tell you that – I expected perfection, didn’t get it and I immediately shut down because I’m human and that’s what I sometimes do. But I’m back and this time, I’m determined to write for me.  Don’t get me wrong, I want my stories shared, I want for you to read this blog and share with all your friends and family – but right now, that’s not going to be my driver.  My push forward will be me and my story.  Sharing my experiences while hoping that it resognates with someone out there.

With that being said – read, enjoy, and comment, if you’d like!  🙂